10 Myths about Trans, kinda weirdo or just normal people?

• By “Jia Vessi” (West-Ladyboy- Ts Entertranser)

  • The Shemale Writer
    • HI and welcome to another post this time about the 10 Main Myths about Transgender people.

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  • I was browsing the web and suddenly I bumped up into this interesting website and immediately decided to join their forum, therefore if you are a Trans take a look at it by going to the welcome lounge and from there you can introduce yourself or jump to the Everyday Feminism forum and look at so many topics like sex and sexuality love and relationship, community support, parenting, work, gender race & class…
  • If instead you are a straight man or a woman, you can still get some knowledge about the Trans planet.
  • There is nothing weird about it as whatever subsists in this world it exists for a reason. To investigate about the grounds why things, attitude and inclinations exist, its not my task and I will leave that to the scientists.
  • This Topic was written by the Author Katy, and I must have read it 7/8 times, and thought to write my comments in relation to my personal experience as a Transgender. Nothing has been altered or edited from the article of Katy, and only my own comments have been added at the end of each Myth. My remarks are not aimed to make things look better for the transgender, nor do they aim to correct anything with reference to what the author said.
  • They are rather my appreciation and support for what it has been written, as I found these myths still living in the mind of some people.
  • << I aim to answer to each Myth as if they were questions personally asked to me >>
    • You can find the full Topic Here
    • http://everydayfeminism.com/2012/08/myths-about-transgender-people/
    • Thanx
    • Jia
    • Here are The Myths >>
    • Myth #1:  Transgender people live crazy lives.<From Katy, Author>
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  • his is probably the most common misconception about trans people.
  • Many people incorrectly associate being transgender with automatically living an “crazy lifestyle” based on tv and in the movies. This may involve drag performance, hyper-masculine or hyper-feminine behavior, drugs, or prostitution.
  • Some trans people (and some non-trans people too!) engage in the above behaviors. But all transgender people do the everyday things that are a part of life. They go to work, buy groceries, see movies, kiss their kids good night.
  • They are people. They do people things like everyone else.
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    • Jia  comments and additions
  • . I appreciated very much this post made by the author Katy… Bless you.
  • It is indeed true and Transgenders are often seen and related to sexual stuff, and often appearing as weirdo if so I can say, giving to people a false impression of a reality that it is not.
  • Well, special people are always criticized and this remind me about one writer that once said, it does not matter what they think about me as long as they talk about me. Why special and why am I saying this? Because am I a transvestite too? Not exactly so, but I do think that anyone who follows his inclinations, and his/her own way regardless, is certainly more authentic that any other fake personality.
  • Trans just follow their way, remember about the song Elvis Presley and Frank Sinatra use to sing years back? “My way”
  • Transgenders have always existed, but now we know more about them because of the net, and as one of them I can say that I keep my feet on the ground and do whatever needs to be done in any area of my life, from washing the dishes and preparing delicious food, along with tidying the house, and yes buying my favorite groceries too.
  • If I happen to be naughty at times it is because of my personal sex drive, actually higher than when I use to live my life as a man.
  • We are what we, are no matter the gender or gender change.
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    • Myth #2: Transgender people are confused.<From Katy, Author>
  • Just because a person is different, doesn’t mean they don’t know who they are.
  • Trans people have a sex.  They are females, males, and intersex.
  • Trans people have a gender.  They are men, women, queer, and other genders.
  • They know their sex and they know their gender.
  • This can be confusing to us who inhabit more traditional gender roles, but to the transgender person, it is not confusing.  It is just who they are.
  • That said, coming to the realization that you are trans, and coming out publically as trans, in a society that doesn’t accept or understand youcan be very confusing and hurtful.   Many transgender people have experiences of feeling “defective” or “wrong.”
  • This is a social problem, not a gender identity problem.
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    • Jia  comments and additions
  • I was inspired by this second myth, and I hear about it quite often.
  • Years ago I began actually thinking that if there was a god, then he must have been confused too, the day I was born. Or perhaps he made it on purpose and in my creation recipe he must have added few more female genes to become another kind of different flower in the beautiful garden of the world.
  • The planet looks like a confusion itself, but still it is like a beautiful garden where we all show our unique personality regardless of sex gender and personal choices. I was told the same but few friends, years back that I use to be confused personality and sexuality, but I could not understand them as I was feeling just fine being the way I was.
  • Unfortunately the disappointment comes from the conservative and it is also understandable from their own point of view. If I think what I had to face when my relatives in Malta came officially to know about it, but I loved them and well understood that being traditional is nothing but living in a pre-defined minded world that makes them feel comfortable. The older one grows the less one wants to open his mind. Just natural stuff.
  • I define confusion not knowing where to go and having a certain feeling of disturbance about it, but if one enjoys what he is doing then there is no confusion. Joy is the our guide, and whatsoever is a dynamo of energy for our being we can make sure we are not confused and on the right track
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  • because of their gender identity alone!
  • It’s because in a patriarchal society, being
  • This diagnosis is helpful because it tells us that this person is hurting and something needs to be done to help.
  • Transgender people have the same brains we do. They are just faced with a lot more mental and emotional stress.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Mhhm have heard about this too, and let me say I have met some transgenders with panic and other disorders, I have also met non-transgenders with the same kind of symptoms.
  • Funny enough when an illness or any other bad news that relates to transgenders bumps up in the news… it makes the news. Often you will hear the comments of people saying: “you see? I told you about them! They should be banned, and this and that ,,,
  • Disorders can often be cured with no drugs or any artificial means; Trans or no Trans, any mental chaos, if taken in the early stage can be taken care with laughter and positive emotions, until awareness about the disorder becomes clear. Once someone is conscious about his/her disorders then there is no disturbance anymore, like a mad man who becomes aware of his madness, cannot be classified as mad anymore.
  • Due to my passion for psychology and (non-religious related) spiritual health, I have witnessed many cases of mental disturbance and these individual were non-trans but often they belonged to backgrounds of a more repressed society.. just a short example if you lived in Sicily (years back) and you wanted to be a Trans, you had keep it hidden especially If you live in a small town, and by not expressing your personality correctly you might fall into paranoia and dullness or even worse bulimia and eating disorders.
  • Being disturbed is more about not being at ease with your environment and the fear of being judged because of your inner desire to Be who you want. We cannot be all like St Francis of Assisi who knew what he wanted and followed his own inclinations undressing himself in front of the archbishop and his family giving up all his richness,…. but small steps towards freedom from oneself will certainly feel one better.
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  • One is what gender we see ourselves as being.  The other is what gender(s) and sex(es) we are physically and romantically attracted to.
  • Knowing one doesn’t tell you about the other.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Thanks to Katy for this, I luv it,,, <<Knowing one doesn’t tell you about the other>
  • Having been an Escort for quite a while, I often hear this question over the phone. Or by emails. It sound like there is a sort of panic between the first timers Straight men, who would like to have a companion experience with a transgender, to avoid someone who is gay.
  • It is understandable and any enquiry cannot be judged and can only shortly be answered in the proper way depending on how much of an attitude or not the caller has.
  • My answer normally is as follow: “Caller: Hi you Jia ?,Jia:Yes you are talking to her, Caller: Jia I never tried this before but wanted to ask you, are you gay? Jia: My name is Jia and I am a lady_man Transvestite, what makes me meet men and entertain them is only because of my feminine feeling.”.
  • For more info and details about this you might want to have a look at my previous article.Interview to a Transexual an increasing phenomenon
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  • Myth #5: Transgender people are radical liberals with crazy ideas.
    • <From Katy, Author>
  • Transgender people come from all political and religious backgrounds.
  • Many trans people just want to lead their lives as part of “mainstream” society and be accepted and not condemned by their families, churches, governments and communities.
  • They should be allowed this.
  • Other trans people feel very strongly about changing the system that has oppressed them and adapt more radical beliefs about the gender system.  They wish to live outside of traditional social norms and not be deemed “freaks” because of it.
  • They should be allowed this too.
  • Transgender people are diverse. Each will make a unique decision about the life they want to lead.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • In my experience Transgenders are not much into politic, though some of us would like to adhere and form parties to have a voice. It’s about not changing anything in terms of how life goes, and not to interfere with any policies or rules, it is about feeling accepted and recognized by the masses as a normal actuality.
  • You can call the transgender the new phenomenon, where few courageous have discovered their inner feminine part and amalgamate it into a man’s body. Now that’s what I call fine art.
  • Personally I leave the rules and all the specification to those who have had the gift of the speech and know how to represent the right of transgenders. We all have different gifts and not being frightened to show them it’s what makes one unique.
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    • Myth #6: Transgender people hate their bodies.<From Katy, Author>
  • This is a very common myth.  It does make sense that a person who identifies as a woman might be uncomfortable in her male body, and vice versa.  And some transgender peopleareuncomfortable and want to alter their bodies.  Others choose to live with their bodies as they are.
  • Neither choice means that this person hates themself.  On the contrary, a transgender person can love themselves through the wholeprocess of transitioning.  And we can love them too!
  • Each person’s relationship with their body is unique and we should support every transgender person in doing what works for them.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Yessszz well said! Transition!
  • Though transgenders might feel that their bodies do not match exactly with their feminine feelings, there are few transition processes that anyone can undertake in order to appear more like one feels to.
  • Accepting the body the way it is, is common sense and then at your own pace thinking of what can be done to improve it in order to get a more feminine figure. A Trans does not really have to do all this, if she does not feel to.
  • In my case as I wanted to be a Trans Escort, I had a great wish to appear like a little model and I undertook  any kind of exercise I could, with the right food containing mostly oestrogens, and much mind-work,,, I started to think I was already who I wanted to be… Lying to yourself helps a lot, when it comes to destroy old habits and creating new ones.
  • Never heard of that lady who had a cancer and she just thought cancer was never in her body and she was healed. Mind does it all, and unfortunately mind destroys it all too. Please do not allow your created-mind to become the Host of the gathering, as our willing power and our intentions are the real Host and the mind just a guest a mean being used when we allow it to.
    • Myth #7: Transgender people perform drag shows.<From Katy, Author>
  • Conservative thinkers would love to point to a singing, shimmying, scantily dressed, heavily made-up drag queen slinking across a stage and say, “THAT is a transgender!”  But, they’re wrong.  In fact, did you know that the majority of gender performance is done by non-trans people?
  • Because, it’s just a performance.  It’s not about real people.
  • Drag Queensand Drag Kings “do drag” for theatrical, comedic, and at times, political purposes.  They do it for their art and they do it with you, the viewer, in mind.
  • When a trans woman wears women’s clothing or a trans man wears men’s clothing, they are not doing drag.  Nor are they cross-dressing.  They are just wearing their clothes.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Oh yes I did that too, not exactly as a drag queen but as a Tv local show in clubs, and I just loved all my admirers. Most of them were genuine people who really can love transgender phenomenon. As I mentioned into another post, once you look at a Trans for some times and talk to her you start immediately think that she is a lady.
  • Most men nowadays have re-discovered this other side of their life, and they just love the idea of meeting a feminine figure with a plus (+1) attribute. Something different that’s all.. Women are women and Trans are Trans,,, Makes the world less boring I guess.
  • There is always a risk to be considered like a caricature when dancing or performing live, but the risk is felt more if there is anything to risk, and if we make sure to push off the pedestal our ego, then the risk of being funny is not there anymore.
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    • Myth #8: You can tell someone is transgender just by looking at them.<From Katy, Author>
  • This is a myth meant to make us believe that transgender people are all crazy freaks.  That you can “spot” one, like a cartoon villain or a sasquatch. “Look, a tranny!”
  • It is a hurtful and misleading lie.
  • The truth is,transgender people have bodies just like ours.  And they may display them in very traditional ways.
  • Somepass very well, others don’t.
  • As feminists, we don’t judge our bodies or anyone else’s.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • We are at myth nr 8 and have to say this is getting all my attention and it has been so inspiring.
  • Truly so ! Some Trans they go unnoticed, some others pass like the eye of the cyclone if so I can say. Whenever I am requested and booked for an outcall in west London, I use the Tube underground, and you would not go unseen once you are in the carriage with other people.
  • Nevertheless London is such a nice place that it is not a common attitude between people to stare at you if you are someone unusual, whether a Trans or straight dressed in a funny way, or a stunning woman in a mini skirt.
  • To be honest I do enjoy the shy attention and the furtive looks from some of the men busy reading their newspapers and occasionally taking a better look at that Tv standing just beside or in front of them. I tend to avoid spaces with families and children because I am aware that my presence might embarrass someone.
  • It is true that we have to follow our own way, and be the way we want to be, but trying to entirely impose or force our presence is some environment is not so right. For every new born phenomenon time is needed and a little common sense and approach does make things better.
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    • Myth #9: Transgender people aren’t “real” men or women.<From Katy, Author>
  • This is probably the most hurtful myth of all.  It tells us that transgender people are somehow less human because of their gender identification.  It is proof that they do not have a place in proper society.
  • It is hateful and unacceptable.
  • Everyone should have the right to be men and women, regardless of sex category or anything else.
  • There are many ways to be human.
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Indeed Trans nowadays do not have a place in the proper society, and perhaps if one day we would get one, that will be the end of our charisma. There is some irritation about this, but slowly something about this area is going to definitely get better.
  • As I said before most Trans are not still interested in Politic, nor they would like to take part to social gathering in support of the Trans rights. It’s a new happening, and it is being slowly made public through the internet and other social resources, as anything time is needed, and its enough to think how things were for gays 30 years ago where you could get arrested in some places for being caught with another man or for publicly declaring that one man loved another man.
  • Perhaps to some is still not so clear that Trans want to be who they are not by being women, but by being women-alike, and keeping their manhood, feeling to be like women well aware that all is happening in a male’s body.
  • The Ts transsexual who went one more step ahead, and managed to modify and make their body more feminine are still aware of their manhood, but that is what is all about.
  • Many Straight men do like Trans because of all this. A trans Is born man, and it is seen woman-like, and found very attractive because of who she is and along with the masculine voice and all other +1 attributes.
  • In my experience I noticed that many men nowadays love Trans pre-op with breasts or no breasts, and are less attracted to those who are post-op and made the choice trough surgery to give up what nature kindly gave to them.
  • A little personal note on this: When I started escorting and was receiving the first calls. I always wanted to specify and say: “Sir , are you aware that I am no lady, but a Transvestite? “ and the caller was like, Yes ! That’s the reason why am calling you,,,
  • I wanted to be more feminine especially in my voice, and found out that the voice is just fine for everyone.
  • What is attractive to straight men, is what they see, and they treat us like girls… It’s not unusual to hear calls starting with Hi Babe. Hello Hun … Well if that happens it means you made an impression. Finally I can say that this myth is not alive within the T-girl lovers.
  • T-girls are just fine
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    • Myth #10: Transgender people are weird.<From Katy, Author>
  • When someone is unlike anything we have seen or known, we think, that’s weird.
  • It’s okay to have that thought.  It’s human nature.  But it’s important to understand that your perception of what’s “weird” is based on your experiences and your culture.
  • Many cultures think that living outside the gender binary (two-gender system) isperfectly normal.  Transgender people are integrated into mainstream society and may even be held in high esteem.
  • We can do the same!  As feminists, we think difference is good!  (and we embrace weirdness too).
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    • Jia comments and additions
  • Well, I was gonna comment on this last myth, but after fully reading what the author Katy said, I have no further comments to add. She just said the way I wanted to say it.
  • I guess the universal mind makes people feel and think the same way when we have some common interests.
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  • and now before completing this post
  • A winkat those not prepared to see Trans as an existing natural trend
  • And Big Hugs for all T-girl lovers, take us for what we are, and where possible lend us a hand with your positive attitude about us, even with the friends and with those who still see us as odd birds. I am not asking to change anybody’s mind, only to say that Trans are fine, just fine.
  • T-girls are just fine.
  • I will let the final lines from Katy end this post for today
  • Kiss mak mak
  • Jia
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    • Why do these myths exist? <From Katy, Author>
  • These mythsall have one thing in common:they justify the subjugation of transgender people.
  • Think about it:  if we all believed that transgender people were confused, crazy, mentally ill, radical freaks that aren’t real people, then why would we want them to have an equal place in our society?  If they’re not normal, and not right, why would we want them to be anything more than invisible?
  • It’s a calculated collection of stereotypes that serves to maintain patriarchy.
  • Just by knowing that these 10 myths are false, you know more about transgender people than most people in the country today.
  • And, because of this knowledge, trans people are one step closer to being understood and accepted in mainstream society.
  • Now, take a minute to think about how powerful that is.
  • Katy Kreitler is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism as well as a counselor and youth advocate.  She can be found wandering the streets of San Francisco with a purse full of used fiction, a pair of emergency yoga pants, and half a burrito.